Hello, everyone. It has been a while, and I hope that you all are doing well. I have some exciting news on the adoption front: we are matched with an expectant mother who has chosen us to parent her child!
We finished the last of our paperwork and completed our homestudy in June, and at that time our social worker told us that we probably could expect to wait AT LEAST a year for a baby. However, she informed us that there was a possibility that it could happen any time, including very soon, if an expectant mother were to choose our profile from the agency's website before contacting the agency. In that event, if the agency were to determine that her preferences match ours, we could be matched at that time regardless of the amount of our time on the waiting list.
EIGHT DAYS after our homestudy was approved and our profile went up on the agency's website, we received a call from our social worker that a woman had chosen us, our preferences matched, and she wanted to meet us. My husband and I met her at a restaurant for lunch two days later (coincidentally, for the meeting she picked the same time of day and the exact restaurant where my husband and I had our first date 14 years ago), and we all "clicked." We really like her! I'll call her "C." We all have a lot in common, and I am especially happy that she is a Christian. (Unfortunately we will never get to meet the man who fathered the baby because he is totally out of the picture at this point.)
C is due to deliver a baby girl on August 10. However, C may be induced earlier because an ultrasound earlier this week revealed that the baby has a health issue that may or may not turn out to be serious (an enlarged bladder that may be affecting her kidney function).
If the adoption plan proceeds, though, we could be parenting a baby in the very near future!
My husband and I are feeling such a roller coaster of emotions. Mainly we are THRILLED, excited, and happy at the potential of adding a little daughter to our family. We would love her to pieces! Our extended families are very excited, too; my husband's sister even cried happy tears when we saw her because she is so hopeful and excited for us. I feel sad that my dad isn't here to share the news with because he would have been SO excited. We also are feeling a bit overwhelmed and our heads are spinning that it is happening so unexpectedly fast (we made a mad dash to Babies R Us with my mother-in-law and my husband's sister and went on a wild shopping spree because even though we have been trying to have a baby for over 5 years, we still hadn't acquired ANY baby paraphenalia and were woefully unprepared in that department). In addition, we are concerned about the baby's health and hoping and PRAYING that the bladder problem will turn out to be nothing serious (an amnio already has determined that she is chromosomally normal and doesn't have any of the genetic conditions that commonly could cause an enlarged bladder, so that is good news).
We also feel sad for C; we told her that if she has a change of heart and decides to parent her child, we would understand. We told her that we don't want her to feel pressure just because we are matched; in order to feel good about adopting her child, we need to know that she is doing it because she truly believes it is the best option for her as well as for her baby and not because of any outside pressure. She assured us that she has prayed and prayed about it and independently feels that she truly is making the best choice for everyone involved, including herself. However, I certainly would understand if that all changed when they put the baby in her arms. We would be very sad and disappointed if she has a change of heart, but God would give us the strength to deal with it, and regardless of what happens with this match we have faith that there is a baby in our future, some way, somehow.
All you pray-ers out there, please pray for God's will and guidance in this situation. Please pray for the baby's and C's health and that the delivery will go smoothly and safely (C wants us to be there for the birth, by the way). Please pray for guidance and peace for both C and us and that this situation really will turn out to be a good one for all involved, whatever happens.
Thanks! I'll keep you posted!